Repair your marriage & learn to thrive now!

Melissa Orlov, the leading expert in ADHD relationships, helps partners feel what it's like to thrive again.

  • Learn how to trust again

  • Let go of your anger and frustration

  • Move from “correcting problems” to “enjoying each other”

  • Navigate and optimize ADHD treatments

  • Tap into hope for your relationship

  • Cope with having a partner who is not yet in control of their anger

  • Improve your communication skills

  • Become closer than you have been in a long time, and find the joy and intimacy you miss

Learn what works,

& apply it to your individual relationship.

Who should take this seminar?

  • Adults with ADHD and their non-ADHD partners

  • Couples with two ADHD partners

  • Couples with a partner who suspects they have ADHD but have yet to be diagnosed

  • Adults of any age, gender and sexual orientation...married or committed to each other

  • Mental health professionals who want to learn more about ADHD and relationships

  • Couples who don't need the weekly meetings of the live seminar to motivate them

  • Couples who prefer to break up the lessons into short segments

Pricing options: Self-study seminar

Please contact Melissa Orlov to receive active U.S. military discount information.

Mental health professionals: Please register as a MHP below, even if you are taking the seminar with your partner. Thank you!

Registration for the self-study seminar includes:

  • One year access to 8 sessions (see the curriculum outline below)

  • 10 video lectures, 8 of which include Q&A recordings from a 2022 live version of the seminar

  • Recommended homework - including handouts, worksheets and reading material

  • *The textbook, The ADHD Effect on Marriage by Melissa Orlov, is not included.

Self-Study Curriculum

You have 1 year from the date you enroll in the seminar to access materials in the online classroom.
*Please note that the new session that has been added to the live seminars starting in 2023 is not included in the current version of the self-study seminar.

  • Session 1: Optimizing ADHD treatment; The differences between you

  • Session 2: Interpreting ADHD symptoms; Symptom/response/response cycles and how to interrupt them; Defensiveness and anger intro

  • Session 3: Anger continued; Getting out of parent/child dynamics; The healing process; Setting boundaries

  • Session 4: Communication strategies that work

  • Session 5: Getting away from fights and chore wars + BONUS video

  • Session 6: Difficult to understand behaviors: The skinny on lying, affairs, pornography and more

  • Session 7: Rebuilding trust; the science of finding joy in your ADHD-impacted relationship

  • Session 8: Conflict intimacy; sex and desire, more conversational skills; next steps

Meet Your Instructor

Instructor Melissa Orlov

Melissa Orlov has been teaching (and constantly improving) this seminar since 2010. She is the author of two award-winning books on the topic of ADHD and relationships and is dedicated to helping couples impacted by ADHD learn how to thrive. She is a popular instructor, giving talks and seminars for couples and therapists around the world.

Melissa is one of the foremost authorities on this topic, and is known for her practical approach - providing both insight from her many years of experience and specific strategies that work. She wants you to focus on what works. With this seminar she has surprised many couples who had lost hope...but then learned specific skills they needed to improve their lives together.

Learn more about Melissa at

Learn more and order your copies here:

The ADHD Effect on Marriage by Melissa Orlov

The Couples Guide to Thriving with ADHD by Melissa Orlov & Nancie Kohlenberger, LMFT

Reconnect, heal & thrive - together.

I know it's possible because I've seen it. I've worked with countless couples who have rebuilt healthy, happy and loving connections. If you're ready to take the next step towards positive change, I'm ready to help.


  • "This course gave my husband and me the breakthrough we so desperately needed.

  • "Thank you again for such a life-changing seminar. It was the best and most effective money and time we ever spent."

  • "You have given us hope and a direction. I am forever grateful to your wisdom, and ability to even handedly deliver your message. My ADHD husband has felt like the bad guy for so long but you managed to get him to sit still and look at himself without judgment. That’s pretty amazing!!!"

  • "Your class has brought a bright ray of hope to our marriage."

  • "Melissa is very good at addressing both spouses and their issues and offers practical and easy to implement ideas that really do turn things around during the Seminar. The question and answer time at the end of each session helps a lot also. I highly recommend this course for any couples who are struggling in an ADHD marriage relationship. Thank you so much, Melissa, for your time and effort to help others."

  • "I felt this course was a guidepost each week. Sometimes I really feel lost in the dark with dealing with my spouse's untreated ADHD and this course was a way to navigate through some of the difficult-to-talk-about details."

  • "Your course literally saved our marriage. It has turned it around and given us new tools and perspectives that no marriage counselor has been able to give to us. It is still tough but in a manageable sense. I have finally stopped being co-dependent and parenting and my personal life is much more fulfilling and less stressed. Our kids will now not have to be kids of divorced parents as I was truly at my wits end when I found your site. Thank you!"

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